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About Mary

Hi! I have been providing services for children and young adults with Autism Spectrum Disorders, ages 3 through age 27, for twenty years. I also teach teachers and other professionals strategies and interventions to improve and develop communication skills, social understanding skills, and replacement of stereotypical behaviors. I try to create an awareness and empathic response with professionals working with families and caregivers living with the unique differences and challenges of ASD. My other goals include educating the public about ASD. ASD is a label that provides a common ground for discussing treatment, strategies, and other interventions to help the child or person. The label is not the child and vice-versa. Over the years I have observed many children develop communication skills, experience social success, and decrease and change stereotypical behavior into productivity. The children I work with are unique and wonderous. Like you and I they have specific interests and strengths that are valuable assets to their Quality of Life.

Is it a A Spongy Rock from Outer Space?

When is an orange an orange? When is an orange a piece of fruit? How do I know it is not a piece of meat or a rock from a strange spongy planet? An orange has its own unique characteristics, … Continue reading

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I Feel Embarrassed When My Child Touches His Private Areas in Public!

“My child touches his penis and becomes aroused when we are in public places. I feel embarrassed.” Your child knows the sensations  feel good, however, it is probably just a form of self stimulation. Most likely your child probably does … Continue reading

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My Child is Different, So What!

My child is different! People stop and stare, they tell me to discipline him…he is out of control, grabbing items off of shelves, making strange sounds, trying to run away from me. I feel tired, sometimes I feel crazy,  and … Continue reading

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My Child Seems Pre-Occupied with Irrelevant Details

Teaching Cue Selectivity What does “cue” selectivity mean?  Cue selectivity is a term used within behavioral psychology and education. Cue is exactly that, a cue, or a “clue, a characteristic of a thing that provides information about the whole object. … Continue reading

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My Child is Out of Control at Home and School, Are there Replacement Behaviors? A Glance at Impulsive Behavior

Impulsivity, what does it look like for a child with autism? Quickly grabbing items from others, opening and closing cupboard doors, getting desired things, items, and objects from others and storage areas without asking, running out the door to move … Continue reading

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Why does my child act and say things as if others have no feelings?

Many people with autism exhibit what is called Theory of Mind behaviors.  This means that they lack the ability to naturally realize that other people have thoughts and feelings that are different from theirs. They lack the ability to take … Continue reading

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Impulsive Behavior: Some Children Need Extra Help When Helping Themselves to Everthing

Some children cannot help themselves, they sit at the table ready to participate in an activity and they are compelled to touch and grab all the materials that are prepared for the activity.  It does not matter what the materials … Continue reading

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Are You A Parent Who Struggles to be in Public Places With Your Child?

  Do you own a suitcase filled with the “Shoulds”when it comes to being in public with your child with an Autism Spectrum Disorder? The shoulds are a large external family of social dictates that tend to rule internal social expectations. The … Continue reading

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What kind of Educational Environment Will my Child Thrive In?

The learning environment requires a variety of tools, materials, and methods. It also requires a comprehensive understanding of your child’s need based on strengths, interests, and qualitative impairments in communication, social understanding, and repetitive behavior and in turn how these … Continue reading

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Why Does My Child Act Like He Does Not Hear Me?

 My child acts like he doesn’t hear me most of the time and I feel frustrated. Many children with autism seem like they are deaf to other people. Yes, they probably hear you and they are not ignoring you. One … Continue reading

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